With less than ten minutes to spare I still have time to put up my post today. I had a thought that perhaps answering my own interview questions from my perspective would be interesting to read. Also it makes the weekends just a little less stressfull! Here we go:
What advice would I give a mother just finding out her child has special needs?
Dear The mother of a special needs child,
I have walked the path you are just embarking on now. I know it's not easy and I know it hurts. The pain in your heart of helplessness that you cannot do anything for your child is heartbreaking. Rest assured that you are not alone. There are others out there like you and I. I can't make the hurt go away, I'm sorry. There is a grieving process to go through, and it's okay to grieve. For as long as you like. My son is 9 years old and there are moments that I still grieve. I can tell you that once you've dried up those tears, put away the kleenex and take a look at your child. Really look at him or her. Notice the colour of thier hair, thier eyes. Notice the shape of their hands, their toes, those cute little lips. Realize that what you are looking at is a little person that needs you more than they will need anyone else in this world. Love that little child. Cherish that little child. Celebrate that little child's life. Take time out of each day to treasure each moment and remember that this little person you created (or adopted) is more than the wires you see running hear and there, more than the feeding tubes, oxygen tubes, heart monitores. Under all of that is some that needs your love. Love him or her with all you have in you to love with and the rest will take care of itself.
Bless you and your child and may you have many happy moments together~
LauraJ
What are my hopes and fears for the future?
I'm a realist kind of person who has realistic thinking and thoughts most of the time. I tend to face any given situation head on in a matter-of-fact sort of way. What I'm trying to say is that I have no positive hopes for the future, and folks tend to find my views a little negative. . This is my way of coping with being Aaron's mother and the life we have together. In my heart I believe I will outlive Aaron. This is probably very hard and sad to read. As I said I'm a realist. I had to come to this decision due to the fact that I lived Aaron's first 5 years of life that I was going to "lose" him. One day I realized let's stop living in fear and face the truth, whatever that truth is. Maybe it's not even true! At least I can live each day without a terrorizing fear. Although I do admit that it is still a terrifying thought and I don't let my mind go that way very often. I try to love him as much as I can now, live each day to the fullest and I do hope for the best that we do grow old together.
3 comments:
you are truly amazing. I love your sense of *this is how it is*. I think that is how I would get through every day. You are a hero to that boy of yours.
Love this post Laura!!!, it is beautiful and honest. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. :)
thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings! I especially loved what you wrote you would say to a mother ...
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